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Spiritual Journey to Unconditional Love

On November 7, 2017 it will be exactly 11 months since my dark journey began.  At that time my soul was broken, incredible sadness and loss at the destruction of my marriage.  What began with blame and finger pointing, turned to shame and guilt, then deep sadness at the things I could not change about myself.  Transmuted to attempts to tear down walls I had built for protection.  All of this in an effort to understand the greatest gift of all, unconditional love.  Every step of this process involved the discovery of a new talent to be exercised for my betterment.  I feel the need to share my journey with others, so that when YOU meet loss, you too will have a place to start.  In laymen’s terms – what does it look like to remove your ego, how do you recognize the mirror, what really is that still small voice you hear, and how do you listen to it. 

 

Keep forever in your mind, that I know absolutely nothing, other than what I have gone through.  I am not an expert, I fall down, fail in my attempts, am inconsistent, and make mistakes like the rest of us.  I hope that this can be a place for others to come and share their thoughts on their healing journey.  I am open to discussion on other options and ways to heal (I love learning).  I will not tolerate bashing, I will not be vilified for my thoughts and beliefs, nor do I allow others to experience the same within this framework.  Nor will I hold your hands, your journey is after all your journey in life.  What I have to offer may not be for you, however you will have to do the work required to heal yourself if you wish to heal. 

 

Ego – A Vice or A Voice

  • Writer: Wendy S. Hockenberry
    Wendy S. Hockenberry
  • Nov 8, 2017
  • 2 min read

If Karma is a bitch, what is Ego – a vice or a voice?


Let us take a moment to define how Ego show’s its face. Any time you are angry, hurt, sad, mad, holier than, better than, worse off than, fear, etc., you are in an ego state. Ego can also turn its other cheek and show you joy, gladness, and happiness.


Given how your emotional state shows you your Ego, it can then be said that it is a voice. Many of these states are negative and you feel all out of whack. Some people find themselves in the same emotional state for days, weeks, months, even years. A great deal of why we humans get so butt hurt comes from an Ego State, therefore Ego is also considered a vice.


Ego has much to do with the fact we finger point, have a shadow self, participate in mirror situations with reflections and projections. Once Ego shows up it’s a sure sign you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself. As a matter of course, these emotional states should be followed with a big fat WHY am I feeling that way (including the positive aspects).

This is the second stage of mindfulness, being aware of emotionality in the moment.


Checking how you feel before and after a given interaction gradually becomes checking emotionality during the interaction.


Ask yourself this while interacting:

  • How am I feeling right now with this person?

  • Did I feel the emotion build while talking to this person?

  • What was the sign the emotion was building up in me?

  • When Ego has appeared, ask yourself why (obviously not easy to do during the communication but try it anyway?)

  • Now double check your why, because a shadow may have appeared you were not aware of.

Note how many times Ego voiced itself, and recognize that if it repeats all too frequently it is definitely a vice you need to face as soon as possible.


Last Updated June 11, 2018

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