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Spiritual Journey to Unconditional Love

On November 7, 2017 it will be exactly 11 months since my dark journey began.  At that time my soul was broken, incredible sadness and loss at the destruction of my marriage.  What began with blame and finger pointing, turned to shame and guilt, then deep sadness at the things I could not change about myself.  Transmuted to attempts to tear down walls I had built for protection.  All of this in an effort to understand the greatest gift of all, unconditional love.  Every step of this process involved the discovery of a new talent to be exercised for my betterment.  I feel the need to share my journey with others, so that when YOU meet loss, you too will have a place to start.  In laymen’s terms – what does it look like to remove your ego, how do you recognize the mirror, what really is that still small voice you hear, and how do you listen to it. 

 

Keep forever in your mind, that I know absolutely nothing, other than what I have gone through.  I am not an expert, I fall down, fail in my attempts, am inconsistent, and make mistakes like the rest of us.  I hope that this can be a place for others to come and share their thoughts on their healing journey.  I am open to discussion on other options and ways to heal (I love learning).  I will not tolerate bashing, I will not be vilified for my thoughts and beliefs, nor do I allow others to experience the same within this framework.  Nor will I hold your hands, your journey is after all your journey in life.  What I have to offer may not be for you, however you will have to do the work required to heal yourself if you wish to heal. 

 

Security is an Illusion

  • Writer: Wendy S. Hockenberry
    Wendy S. Hockenberry
  • May 30, 2018
  • 2 min read

We all want security, to be free from care and protected. Some seek it in money, others protection from the environment, most seek it in other people. We feel that if we are loved, all will be grand.


Just like control, security is an Illusion of our own psychological making. We build up all these fantastic beliefs in our head about being free from care. We build structures in our lives, like a pillow to protect us from the blows of life.


I am reminded of the movie "Sandlot," where mom was so afraid her boy would get hurt so she wrapped him in bubble wrap and cushions. Those very structures trap us, they are limiting. How can you bend your arm, when you have bubble wrapped yourself so tightly you cannot move.


That padding you have in the bank: that love you experience; the extra shampoo and toilet paper... could go away in just one intake of breath. So how do you know you are stuck in the illusion?


Ask yourself these questions:

  • Where do you find yourself focusing the most on in fear of lack?

  • What are the things that you find yourself in a panic over if it goes away?

  • Why are you anxious that it will disappear in your life?

  • What can you do to reduce the anxiety in your brain?

  • How are you attached to this security?


Security and control go hand in hand my friends. When you realize it is a product of nature to take and give you stop relying on your need for security and can focus on what matters most.


In the end of the day, it is love... pure unconditional love...


Last Updated June 11, 2018

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