Expectations
- Wendy S. Hockenberry
- Nov 8, 2017
- 2 min read
Like a pregnant mother awaits a child, or a child awaits Santa, expectations depend upon another person to produce a feeling you lack and look for from another to provide. Expectations are part of Projection in the mirror scenario. A synonym to expectation is hope, highlighting the words positive aspects, it can also be a negative experience. For example, I expected my children to choose to live with me rather than their father after my divorce. Sounds like a simple statement, right? Nope, their choice produced a butt hurt Ego reaction, causing a trickledown effect on my emotions and I had to face my fear of abandonment caused by childhood issues. This fear of abandonment shut down two-way communication (Speak YOUR Truth) and put up a wall between myself and all others (Shadow Self), making me feel unlovable. All boiling down to a fear of being alone which I projected onto my second husband (Projections & Reflections). So, let me say this again…
Expectations depend upon another person to produce a feeling you lack and look for from another to provide.
When you expect others to behave a certain way, or do things that you want them to do, you are only looking for a feeling that you lack. If the child’s room isn’t clean you feel uncomfortable because others can judge (Judgement & Value Judgement) you for the uncleanliness and you lack the courage to stand up and say it is the child’s responsibility to clean their room. (And there it is, “Who Are You?”) The cue that you are in an Expectation state is your Ego response.
If Karma and Ego are problematic, Expectations will really show you exactly what you are missing from who you are, and you’ll need to ask some very deep questions about those expectations.
Ask yourself the following:
Why did I have that expectation?
What did they do/not do/not provide that I felt I needed?
Why did I feel they had to provide it for me?
Why did I feel I lacked that emotion in myself?
Dancing around these questions should be very difficult, as expectations show your Shadow Self more clearly than Ego.
Last Updated June 11, 2018
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