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Spiritual Journey to Unconditional Love

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On November 7, 2017 it will be exactly 11 months since my dark journey began.  At that time my soul was broken, incredible sadness and loss at the destruction of my marriage.  What began with blame and finger pointing, turned to shame and guilt, then deep sadness at the things I could not change about myself.  Transmuted to attempts to tear down walls I had built for protection.  All of this in an effort to understand the greatest gift of all, unconditional love.  Every step of this process involved the discovery of a new talent to be exercised for my betterment.  I feel the need to share my journey with others, so that when YOU meet loss, you too will have a place to start.  In laymen’s terms – what does it look like to remove your ego, how do you recognize the mirror, what really is that still small voice you hear, and how do you listen to it. 

 

Keep forever in your mind, that I know absolutely nothing, other than what I have gone through.  I am not an expert, I fall down, fail in my attempts, am inconsistent, and make mistakes like the rest of us.  I hope that this can be a place for others to come and share their thoughts on their healing journey.  I am open to discussion on other options and ways to heal (I love learning).  I will not tolerate bashing, I will not be vilified for my thoughts and beliefs, nor do I allow others to experience the same within this framework.  Nor will I hold your hands, your journey is after all your journey in life.  What I have to offer may not be for you, however you will have to do the work required to heal yourself if you wish to heal. 

 

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Perception and the Brain Game

  • Writer: Wendy S. Hockenberry
    Wendy S. Hockenberry
  • Nov 14, 2017
  • 2 min read

Updated: Jul 3, 2018

You are the sum of everything you have ever learned, and experienced! Perception is defined as what you understand through your senses. This makes you the product of what your physical body is capable of grasping. One of the television shows I liked was called “Brain Games,” which showed how you (and your mind) perceives the world. There is strong evidence that the output filter of your brain is part of your perception. What you understand through this perception is in part due to physical limitations, but also through mental ones (The Bear Trap, and The Other Grey Meat). For example, a physical limitation would be color blindness, your perception of the world would be very different than someone who could see color differently than you. A mental perception is not much different, if you have always been in situations where you feel abandoned you will perceive any interaction you engage in from that filter.





In my second marriage, after my children chose to live with their dad, my output filter with my then husband was that everything he did was a sign that he would also leave. If he chose his children over me, it was a sign he would leave. If he didn’t come home from work right away, it was a sign that he would leave. If he worked too often and didn’t text me, it was a sign that he would leave. While certainly some of these were definitely causes for the termination of my marriage for both parties, they were also showing me where my perception was in err. So how can you tell which perceptive lens you are looking through?



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These questions can help identify which lens:

  • Check your ego, conditioning, cycles, thoughts about how you are seeing things first, ask yourself are these are valid for you?

  • What is Your SMALL Voice telling you?

  • Is this part of Boundaries and Balance, if so is it time to consult with Lady Justice?

  • Is this a Brain Game you are playing with yourself?

  • Is this an area where you are hyper vigilant?


Digging deep can show you many things about yourself you never knew existed. Hypervigilance is a sure sign that you need to evaluate you.


Last Updated June 11, 2018

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