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Spiritual Journey to Unconditional Love

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On November 7, 2017 it will be exactly 11 months since my dark journey began.  At that time my soul was broken, incredible sadness and loss at the destruction of my marriage.  What began with blame and finger pointing, turned to shame and guilt, then deep sadness at the things I could not change about myself.  Transmuted to attempts to tear down walls I had built for protection.  All of this in an effort to understand the greatest gift of all, unconditional love.  Every step of this process involved the discovery of a new talent to be exercised for my betterment.  I feel the need to share my journey with others, so that when YOU meet loss, you too will have a place to start.  In laymen’s terms – what does it look like to remove your ego, how do you recognize the mirror, what really is that still small voice you hear, and how do you listen to it. 

 

Keep forever in your mind, that I know absolutely nothing, other than what I have gone through.  I am not an expert, I fall down, fail in my attempts, am inconsistent, and make mistakes like the rest of us.  I hope that this can be a place for others to come and share their thoughts on their healing journey.  I am open to discussion on other options and ways to heal (I love learning).  I will not tolerate bashing, I will not be vilified for my thoughts and beliefs, nor do I allow others to experience the same within this framework.  Nor will I hold your hands, your journey is after all your journey in life.  What I have to offer may not be for you, however you will have to do the work required to heal yourself if you wish to heal. 

 

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Self-Love

  • Writer: Wendy S. Hockenberry
    Wendy S. Hockenberry
  • Nov 13, 2017
  • 2 min read

YOU THERE! YES YOU, THE PERSON WITH THE FLAIL AND MONKS ROBES! Put that thing down, drop it right now! (Blood dripping down your back, you put yourself in the lion’s cage with that starving beast... yes you did.) PUT IT DOWN!!!


Who are you to say you aren't beautiful, smart, and intelligent. Who are you to say that you must sacrifice yourself for the greater good all the time? Who are you to say I cannot get myself a new pair of shoes, cook a meal that you like, be happy, enjoy your hobbies just because YOU run into flak from another person? Quit it. Quit beating yourself up, you CAN be just who you are. Even in your mistakes and failings you are the best person you can be at that present moment.





Self-Love means knowing your boundaries, having mastered choice, rising above criticism from yourself and others, being smart enough to see your own worth when others do not. It means doing things for yourself to please you. It means recognizing your own fears and conquering them, speaking your own truths even if it has the potential to hurt another. Self-Love is a happy spot no other soul can take away from you, no matter what their choices and words are. People forget to give themselves that love, so I would like to remind you that it is time. What have you done lately for you?





Ponder these questions:

  • When was the last time you stood up for a belief?

  • When did you last eat a meal you liked?

  • When was the last time you purchased something from a desire standpoint? (It is always better to buy an experience rather than a thing but sometimes things you hold back from getting hold you back.)

  • When was the last time you did something you enjoyed guilt free?


When you see your own worth instead of judging yourself the happier you will become. Stop looking at how fat you are, or how wrinkled your face is... see the wonderful you. Give yourself a little love my dear friend, a little of this goes a long way.


Last Updated June 11, 2018

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