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Spiritual Journey to Unconditional Love

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On November 7, 2017 it will be exactly 11 months since my dark journey began.  At that time my soul was broken, incredible sadness and loss at the destruction of my marriage.  What began with blame and finger pointing, turned to shame and guilt, then deep sadness at the things I could not change about myself.  Transmuted to attempts to tear down walls I had built for protection.  All of this in an effort to understand the greatest gift of all, unconditional love.  Every step of this process involved the discovery of a new talent to be exercised for my betterment.  I feel the need to share my journey with others, so that when YOU meet loss, you too will have a place to start.  In laymen’s terms – what does it look like to remove your ego, how do you recognize the mirror, what really is that still small voice you hear, and how do you listen to it. 

 

Keep forever in your mind, that I know absolutely nothing, other than what I have gone through.  I am not an expert, I fall down, fail in my attempts, am inconsistent, and make mistakes like the rest of us.  I hope that this can be a place for others to come and share their thoughts on their healing journey.  I am open to discussion on other options and ways to heal (I love learning).  I will not tolerate bashing, I will not be vilified for my thoughts and beliefs, nor do I allow others to experience the same within this framework.  Nor will I hold your hands, your journey is after all your journey in life.  What I have to offer may not be for you, however you will have to do the work required to heal yourself if you wish to heal. 

 

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  • Writer: Wendy S. Hockenberry
    Wendy S. Hockenberry
  • Nov 23, 2017
  • 2 min read

Happy Thanksgiving! What a perfect day to talk about Soul Groups on a day when everyone typically thinks about being grateful for all that they have. For me, it isn’t about stuff – it is about the lessons I learned in that 365 days that have passed since last Thanksgiving and the people who are part of my life. Today, I am blessed to be included the number of people that will show up at my sister and brothers from another mother’s kitchen to partake in the meal of gratitude. What a wonderful soul tribe I am in!


I have come to discover that the heart of a home is truly the kitchen. It is a place where you derive sustenance, where most families gather and provide each other with support, exchange thoughts, ideas, love, and touch. In my sister and brothers’ kitchen something more occurs. In that kitchen, non-judgement, speaking your truth, acceptance and acknowledgement are all practiced side by side with unconditionality. EVEN WHEN you are in Ego, Pointing Fingers, have Shadow Self appear, in that kitchen life happens, and is seen for what it is. YOU are seen for who you are, and loved for exactly that – you.



While I struggled with my soul they were there watching me wrestle with my shadow, and pain. As I grew stronger, they supported me in my awkward attempts at engaging with others. They made my birthday super special by surrounding me with their loved ones. As I contemplated posting the meaning of what I had learned, they backed me. When I question the validity of my thoughts they allow me to table them and listen, bouncing ideas off their minds. As my trust issues appeared, and they suffered from my ineptness and still they loved me. When I am in fear about fileting myself in front of everyone by writing these posts they tell me not to quit and how admirable it is that I am writing this. I receive hugs, and can give them in return. To be fair, this is what you should give in return. So how do you know you have found your Soul Group?


Contemplate these things:

  • Do these people support you and can you return that support?

  • Do you feel affection and love for the people you are surrounded by?

  • When you make your goodbyes do you feel happy?

  • How does your gut feel – in the center do you feel accepted for all that you are? (I caution you to check this against your Perception filter.)

  • When they are hurting can you be supportive and loving, show tenderness and concern for them?

I am so grateful to have known these friends for over 15 years. Without them, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. One day, I hope to have a heartfelt kitchen, because I learned it from them.


Last Updated June 11, 2018

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