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Spiritual Journey to Unconditional Love

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On November 7, 2017 it will be exactly 11 months since my dark journey began.  At that time my soul was broken, incredible sadness and loss at the destruction of my marriage.  What began with blame and finger pointing, turned to shame and guilt, then deep sadness at the things I could not change about myself.  Transmuted to attempts to tear down walls I had built for protection.  All of this in an effort to understand the greatest gift of all, unconditional love.  Every step of this process involved the discovery of a new talent to be exercised for my betterment.  I feel the need to share my journey with others, so that when YOU meet loss, you too will have a place to start.  In laymen’s terms – what does it look like to remove your ego, how do you recognize the mirror, what really is that still small voice you hear, and how do you listen to it. 

 

Keep forever in your mind, that I know absolutely nothing, other than what I have gone through.  I am not an expert, I fall down, fail in my attempts, am inconsistent, and make mistakes like the rest of us.  I hope that this can be a place for others to come and share their thoughts on their healing journey.  I am open to discussion on other options and ways to heal (I love learning).  I will not tolerate bashing, I will not be vilified for my thoughts and beliefs, nor do I allow others to experience the same within this framework.  Nor will I hold your hands, your journey is after all your journey in life.  What I have to offer may not be for you, however you will have to do the work required to heal yourself if you wish to heal. 

 

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Where Your Attention Goes, Energy Flows

  • Writer: Wendy S. Hockenberry
    Wendy S. Hockenberry
  • Nov 14, 2017
  • 2 min read

Have you ever noticed that when you are focused on something, you happen to ‘see’ it everywhere else you look? Attention is a synonym for thought – and this is where your energy is concentrated. While specific thoughts stay in your mind, they also appear in your sleep, during your waking time, and interactions with others. Spiritualist call this synchronicity; others call this coincidence. In short, you notice the things you think about earlier than the things you do not focus on. If you don’t think this works (and you post frequently on Facebook), go back to last year and review what you liked, said, or commented on. What do you see? Was it positive or negative in nature, did it fit with what you were thinking at the time, and the outcome you have experienced within that year.


Having checked my own Facebook, I see that I was concerned about my failing marriage. I see that I wavered between staying in the situation or leaving it. My focus was trying to find a balance between my beliefs and the wound he repeated again from December 2015 to November 2016 instead of Cutting Chords as I should have done in December 2015 (Self-Love). Being stuck in my own kaka… I was unable to see what was plainly written all over my posts without saying very many words about my situation (Mindfulness). I couldn’t see the forest through the trees. So how can you tell where you are really at when you have two different thought processes appearing in your attention zone?


Ask yourself this:

  • Counting the number of times, a certain thought appears synchronous to what you are seeing, liking, etc., does this appear more often than the opposite thoughts?

  • Conduct a gut check, how does it feel when you think about this thought versus the other?

  • Do you see synchronicity aligning with the thought, (for example when you think about your children do they suddenly call you or post on Facebook)?

  • Review for conditioning, is this something you were taught as a child that may or may not be a correct way to think.

  • Ask yourself, is this what I really want? (Deep soul searching here – and be honest with yourself.)


After you have been introspective, and followed the synchronicity wait a while to see where you are emotionally. Keep track of the thoughts as well, since you feed your brain maybe a change in what you have fed it has produced a change in behavior.


Last Updated June 11, 2018

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