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Spiritual Journey to Unconditional Love

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On November 7, 2017 it will be exactly 11 months since my dark journey began.  At that time my soul was broken, incredible sadness and loss at the destruction of my marriage.  What began with blame and finger pointing, turned to shame and guilt, then deep sadness at the things I could not change about myself.  Transmuted to attempts to tear down walls I had built for protection.  All of this in an effort to understand the greatest gift of all, unconditional love.  Every step of this process involved the discovery of a new talent to be exercised for my betterment.  I feel the need to share my journey with others, so that when YOU meet loss, you too will have a place to start.  In laymen’s terms – what does it look like to remove your ego, how do you recognize the mirror, what really is that still small voice you hear, and how do you listen to it. 

 

Keep forever in your mind, that I know absolutely nothing, other than what I have gone through.  I am not an expert, I fall down, fail in my attempts, am inconsistent, and make mistakes like the rest of us.  I hope that this can be a place for others to come and share their thoughts on their healing journey.  I am open to discussion on other options and ways to heal (I love learning).  I will not tolerate bashing, I will not be vilified for my thoughts and beliefs, nor do I allow others to experience the same within this framework.  Nor will I hold your hands, your journey is after all your journey in life.  What I have to offer may not be for you, however you will have to do the work required to heal yourself if you wish to heal. 

 

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You Are Not an Algorithm

  • Writer: Wendy S. Hockenberry
    Wendy S. Hockenberry
  • Nov 15, 2017
  • 2 min read

Last year I recall seeing all these advertisements for divorce on Facebook. I will admit I had been discussing it with my friends and family in messenger not publicizing what was going on. I was NOT happy, nor could anyone blame me, if it had been their spouse who was caught in dating sites for the second time they wouldn’t have been happy either. I attempted to change the course of how that marriage was going, choosing to look at positive marriage affirmations, I even shared and liked them. I also saw advertisements that shouted out, “Find Out If He’s Cheating On You.” Again, I must tell on myself (not one of my finer moments either), but I began deeply stalking him behind his back after the second incident rather than the sincere distrust of his actions since the first incident (Where Your Attention Goes, Your Energy Flows). In short, not only was I stuck in my shit, I called it to me by being hyper focused on the negative getting it back not only from him, but also from the social media I visited (The Other Grey Meat).





Facebook is not the only website that targets their marketing to what you like, interact with, and talk about. The media in general targets its market to sell ideas and stuff. Their algorithms do not take in consideration the human factor, and typically target negativity with a solution of sorts. “Here’s a solution, GET A DIVORCE,” or “YOU NEED COUNSELING.” For example, instead of promoting divorce after my separation (The Other Grey Meat), the algorithm could have produced marriage counseling, positive affirmations about self, or producing you may also like groups associated with spirituality instead (Where Your Attention Goes, Your Energy Flows). Your Other Grey Meat took it all in, whether you acknowledged it or not. So how can you tell if the marketing is affecting you?


Ask this when you see an advertisement or group you typically wouldn’t join but suddenly you want too:

  • Is joining this group, or resonating with that advertisement what you really want?

  • What is causing the advertisement to make you want the thing, service, or group?

  • Is this ego, judgmental versus value judgment, conditioning that resonates with you?


When in doubt, err on the side of caution, and just stop watching. Like commercials point you towards desires that are not realistic, social media can cause instances where you are drawn to negative input in your grey matter.


Last Updated June 11, 2018

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